How Married Entrepreneurs Can Thrive in Business and Marriage
Balancing a thriving business and a strong marriage can feel like an impossible task. Too often, one ends up suffering at the expense of the other, leading to stress, resentment, and burnout. But what if you didn’t have to choose? What if you could build a successful business and a thriving marriage—without sacrificing one for the other?
That’s exactly what Robert and Kay Lee Fukui help entrepreneurial couples do. As the founders of Married Entrepreneurs and authors of Tandem: The Married Entrepreneur’s Guide for Greater Work-Life Balance, they’ve dedicated their work to helping couples navigate the unique challenges of business and marriage.
The “Business as the Mistress” Problem
One of the biggest challenges married entrepreneurs face is that their business often becomes the “mistress” in the relationship. Long hours, financial stress, and constant work-related conversations can overshadow the marriage, leaving one partner feeling neglected.
Robert and Kay Lee have seen this dynamic play out over and over—both in their own journey and in the couples they coach. The key to breaking the cycle? Setting clear boundaries and creating intentional time for your relationship.
Setting Boundaries for a Thriving Marriage & Business
If you work from home or run a business with your spouse, the line between work and personal life can easily blur. That’s why boundaries are essential. Some practical ways to create separation include:
✅ Establishing office hours – Set a clear start and end time for work each day
✅ Having a transition period – Whether it’s a walk, a workout, or a phone-free dinner, create a buffer between work and family time
✅ Leaving work at the office (even at home!) – Keep business discussions limited to specific times and avoid letting it dominate personal conversations
The Power of a Weekly Meeting
One of the most powerful strategies Robert and Kay Lee recommend is a weekly business and marriage meeting. This intentional time allows you and your spouse to:
🗓️ Sync schedules – Avoid surprises and plan time together in advance
💰 Review finances – Stay on the same page with money and business goals
🗣️ Improve communication – Address issues before they become major problems
💕 Check in emotionally – Make sure both partners feel supported and heard
By setting aside this dedicated time, couples can avoid misunderstandings, reduce stress, and create a healthier dynamic in both their business and marriage.
Getting Your Spouse’s Support (Even If They’re Not in the Business)
Many entrepreneurs—especially women—struggle with feeling like their business isn’t taken seriously by their spouse. Maybe your husband sees it as a “hobby” rather than a legitimate career, or he doesn’t realize how much support you actually need.
Robert and Kay Lee emphasize that clear communication is key. Instead of assuming your spouse knows what you need, spell it out. Do you need emotional encouragement? Practical help with household tasks? More respect for your work schedule? Being specific about your needs makes it easier for your partner to step up in a meaningful way.
Final Thoughts
Running a business together—or even separately while in a marriage—doesn’t have to be a constant power struggle. With intentional boundaries, structured communication, and mutual respect, it’s possible to thrive in both business and marriage.
Want to hear more insights from Robert and Kay Lee Fukui? Watch the full episode now! And don’t forget to grab their free guide, The 5 Daily Habits for Thriving in Tandem, at marriedentrepreneur.co/empowerher.
